Andaz Apna Apna (To Each His Own)

Female clients in psychotherapy have shared with me these insecurities related to sex:“I’ve never had an orgasm. Am I normal?”“I seldom have orgasms during sex. Maybe it’s because I don’t love him?”“Sex is painful, but it’s my duty to my husband. I just close my eyes and wait until it’s over”“I don’t know how to masturbate. Besides, Isn’t it wrong?”“I feel guilty masturbating when I have a partner. Shouldn’t I be satisfied with him?“I’m not good in bed. Is it because I’m not pretty?”These personal insecurities reflect broader, societal views about sexual intimacy, and this is found in a wide... Read More

Love: It’s Rocket Science

Love and marriage, love and marriageGo together like a horse and carriageDad was told by motherYou can’t have one, you can´t have noneYou can’t have one without the other– Frank Sinatra No love, no marriage In the 1980’s, a group of researchers talked to a WHOLE lot of young people and asked them…Would you marry a person you weren’t “in love with,” but who had all the qualities you desired in a partner?Over 80% said : NO Honoré Fragonard – Les Progrès de l’amour : Le rendez-vous Happily never after Another group of researchers found couples who married for love and followed... Read More

Sex and the City

Physics is like sex: Sure, it may give some practical results, but that’s not why we do it.  — Richard Feynman “I have a 2 year old, that constantly tugs at us and still wakes up twice every night. She sleeps in our bed. Anita and I work an 8 to 8 job. We’ve been together for 6 years. Her body looks like a battlefield. These celebrity billboards …set the bar high. We can count the number of times we have sex in a year. When we do, it feels like a learned motion. How the hell do I navigate... Read More